"For all that has been, thanks. For all that will be, yes." - Dag Hammarskjold
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Sunday, December 29, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: looking back...

A project is a temporary endeavor designed to produce a unique product, service or result with a defined beginning and end (usually time-constrained), undertaken to meet unique goals and objectives, typically to bring about beneficial change or added value.

With this "project management 101" definition in mind, and with the permissions and parametres I set for myself at the beginning of *the gratitude project: dare to be grateful*, I have decided it is time to bring the project to a close.  I will be sharing my reflections on this social engagement experiment over the next few days, as I begin to wrap things up here.  This is not the end of gratitude in my life - I don't think that is even possible! - but rather a turning-of-the-page towards a new creative focus.  More on this in a future post... 

Today, I want to honour and thank the 39 people who accepted the invitation to share their gratitude as part of the "celebrating lives greatly full" series.  Time and time again, as I received their submissions, I was humbled and moved by their honesty and their daring to be grateful.

I savoured their words. I was moved to tears. I rejoiced when they told me how valuable the exercise had been for them.  The ripples of gratitude spreading in so many directions!  And so, in alphabetical order (by last name), here they are... the storytellers, the lifeblood of *the gratitude project: dare to be grateful*.  Truly, a celebration of lives greatly full!  (My heart may be exploding with love & gratitude right now. Just sayin'.)

  1. Anonymous (postcards)
Each and every one of these people have touched my life.  And now they have touched yours.

We are beyond rich.

gratefully yours,
jag

Sunday, December 22, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: joe rios...

I was first introduced to Joe Rios in the virtual world by a mutual friend.  Mike thought Joe & I would hit it off and that our synergy could somehow lead to great things.  I had the pleasure of meeting Joe in person just last month and I am honoured and humbled at the very thought!  Joe has an authentic enthusiasm and passion for many things - and his gratitude is infectious! The two passions that stand out in his public life are running and supporting great causes. This is particularly evident in his drive to run a marathon on each of the seven continents (4 down, 3 to go) and in the creation of a growing yearly event called Run 4 a Cause (#RUN4AC). 

I'm not sure Mike knew that 2014 would be my "year of the marathon" and that I intended to use this event to raise funds for a local charity, but I can't imagine anyone better than Joe to have on my "team"!  Whether or not our connection will lead to great things or not, only time will tell.  For today, I am thrilled to share Joe's personal sharing on gratitude as the end of 2013 draws near.  I look forward to seeing what great things 2014 will bring! 

You can follow Joe's adventures on THRIVEwithjoe.com...


Instead of completing a list of New Year's resolutions, my friends and I brainstormed a word that we wanted to feel all year long.  Without a doubt, for me “INSPIRED” has been abundant and prevalent in 2013.  A buffet of warm intentions, karmic energy and contagious enthusiasm was present at the table throughout this year’s races, travel, fitness classes, presentations, conversations and new challenges.
 
The result: feeling driven, motivated, and wanting to do more! 

The inspiration was magnified & elevated by those who I decided to surround myself with in these activities. Travelling this week with my family in the Hawaiian islands I learned a powerful word: OHANA, defined by the Hawaiians that we are all part of an extended family. My OHANA are genuine individuals that believe in my passions, push me to step outside my boundaries and champion me to succeed. The more this occurs, the more I am energized to do the same in return and hence creating a magical support system.

We all need one and I'm forever GRATEFUL for mine: GGT, Goodlife, Lemons, Team D, family & friends! The phenomenal part of my support system is that it's growing organically & effortlessly.

Sunday, December 15, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: traci mclean...

Traci McLean is one of those women whose smile and eyes grab you from the get-go.  And that voice... sigh. I first met her in 2009.  She was the "new girlfriend" at a family gathering and, having gone through that same experience many (many!) years ago, I was drawn to her immediately. We bonded over that shared experience and have gone on to discover that we have so much more in common.  She is a talented writer and professional vocalist based in Toronto, Ontario.

Traci has been so supportive of *the gratitude project: dare to be grateful* and our conversations over the past year hinted at a deeply felt gratitude of her own.  And so, when I invited her to share that gratitude in this space, she enthusiastically agreed. 

I feel blessed to have her in my life.  Wish you lived closer, my friend...


What Personal Quality Are You Most Grateful For and Why?
In some ways, I’ve been a late bloomer my whole life. It’s not something I’ve ever taken much note of, except in grade 8 when I got teased for still climbing trees and not wearing makeup. Hey… I had multiple flavours of “Lip Smackers” on the go (Mom said clear lip gloss only) and I still climb trees. I just no longer care if people find it strange. The joy of sitting in a tree far outweighs the opinions of others.

I also think I’ve been slow to fully acknowledge my true strengths.  As I looked at what qualities I appreciate about myself, I became grateful for the exercise of answering this question.
I discovered I’m grateful for:

my courage:  I was repeatedly tossed into some very dark places for over a decade and despite fears that I’d lost myself at times, in the end, I emerged stronger than ever – with deep gratitude for the family and friends who stood by me
my playfulness:  I love to play, to laugh, to explore, create, adventure, be silly, go on all the rides, try new things and a beautiful carousel will make me cry.  I’m grateful for the people in my life who love the kid in me and join me in play.

my determination:  I don’t give up easily. I possess a tenacity of mind/heart over matter for which I owe great gratitude to the teachers and mentors who I trained with spiritually, in meditation/communication practice.
my love:  I love my family, friends  and pets deeply and fiercely with an “I’ve got your back” type of honour. I am so grateful to my beautiful parents for teaching me this type of love and demonstrating it so very well. 

my optimism:  I’ve been affectionately teased my whole life about my rose-coloured glasses, my silver lining, my boundless, eternal optimism. My Mom says I was just born like that and my nephew is the same. I am beyond grateful for this quality. In itself, it has been the silver lining during the darkest of days.
But then… as I wound my way through these grateful moments trying to pick  one,  I realized that, most of all, I’m grateful for the way that I’ve grown - to be willing to openly share what I like about me. To share just as it is, without fear about the opinions of others and the societal need to place people in an appropriate box. I don’t fit in a box… and I’m happy with the awkward, wandering parts that make it so.

Though this path to acceptance of self has been lit by a lifetime of experiences, wonderful friends and family I must share that it was greatly accelerated when I met the love of my life, 5 years ago. Late bloomer, remember? He sees me for who I am. He sees me in ways that surprise me sometimes. Being loved and celebrated by him at my best and at my worst has been a true catalyst that allows me to more safely step forward into fully being who I am.  
Gratitude overload reached… signing off now.
Namaste.

Sunday, December 8, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: shulamit day berlevtov

I first met Shulamit Berlevtov several years ago through mutual friends.  From the beginning, I knew she was a seeker and a healer - someone who wasn't afraid to do the work set before her on her spiritual path, and willing to share her experience with others.  She continues to carve her place in this world through her counseling services. She works as a psychotherapist in private practice who offers classes and one-to-one sessions in person in the Kemptville and Smiths Falls area.  Interestingly, she’ll be facilitating Explorations in Gratitude starting January 2014.   

Although we do not see each other often, we keep abreast of each other's lives through the magic of social media.  I am so pleased she agreed to share her most recent intentional practice: gratitude.  I am grateful for YOU Shula! 

What am I grateful for?
I am grateful for formal gratitude practice.

I post a statement about what I am grateful for to my Facebook status every night before bed. I remember the times when I had tried gratitude in the past. When I was feeling low, I’d make a list of “good” things in my life, things for which I should be grateful, and then I’d tell myself, “Look, you should be grateful!” and then berate myself for not feeling any better.
My current approach started when I was having trouble sleeping. I'd seen this infographic and thought I’d experiment to see if gratitude practice before bed would help my sleep. I started by finding one thing each day that had made me smile. I’d recall what happened and smile. Then I’d pay attention to the feel of the smile, and to what other body sensations came along with smiling and the memory of the event. I’d sit with that for a while, savouring the sensations and resting in the memory. Then I would convey the experience by writing down a gratitude statement.

After some time practicing, as the hours move toward bedtime, thoughts of gratitude have started coming on their own. Sometimes they show up at random during the day. Feelings and sensations come with them that make the experience more vivid. When something happens in the moment and I’m grateful for it, the sense of it comes more fully.
Now that I’m awake to all that, spontaneous expressions of gratitude arise for me to share with people in the moment. The quality of my days and of my experience of living have changed. More joy, pleasure, ease and appreciation flow through me, even in the midst of difficult happenings. I feel low less often, and when I do, I can pause, place a gentle hand on my heart, and feel grateful for the ability to do just that. After all, that’s what I need when I’m feeling low! (I have yet to see an effect on my sleep, but at this point, who cares??!!)

Expressing gratitude directly to someone about something they have done is easy for me. I'm giving them feedback about how they have contributed to making life more wonderful for me. The effect my gratitude practice has had on others surprised me. I started doing it via social media because I wanted accountability. But what I offered to myself has become a giving. I still feel shy about acknowledging that. Accepting that this thing I do for myself is of benefit to others is the next frontier of my practice. I’m sitting with the shyness, and grateful for it.

Sunday, November 10, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: sasja nieukerk

Sasja Nieukerk is one of those women you meet... and you just know you'll never be quite the same.  I first met her through work and was struck by her humour, her enthusiasm and her appetite for life. Oh, and her smile.  Seriously one of the best ones out there! We have not worked together for many years now, and she lives on the other side of the country, yet we have managed to forge a friendship that is fed by the quality of the time we spend together if not the quantity.

Sasja has gone on to do great things professionally. And in her personal life, she remains active and engaged.  In more ways than one.  :-)  She has always been supportive of me and I am thrilled she accepted my invitation to participate in *the gratitude project: dare to be grateful*. Thanks Saga - you rock!


What am I grateful for?

Spontaneous learning.

I love learning – can’t get enough of it. There’s lots of learning that I’ve planned and expected over the years, but somehow it’s the spontaneous learning that really takes hold - the learning I didn’t plan on, the discoveries I could not have predicted.  Late in 2012, I was surprised to discover that I was pregnant – this was not something Neil, my fiancé and I had planned, in fact far from it. But well, those drugstore tests don’t lie! Our days and weeks cycled through shock, anger, crying (well ok, it was just me doing the crying), and then finally acceptance. Then lo and behold, even a little bit of excitement started to creep in. All our talk of “this isn’t the right time, we’re not ready for this yet, etc.” started to fall to the wayside. I had not ever really expected to want children – for 39 years I’ve been quite content without any – and yet I now held this precious little life inside me, and suddenly wanting it became supremely important.

So 2013 started with two big events: the first was telling my family the news on New Year’s Eve. The second was New Years Day, when I started bleeding profusely and ended up making the first of several trips to the emergency room. A week later, I’d lost the baby. It took months for my body to recover (my mother always said I had a habit of “go big or go home”), and even longer for my heart to heal. I don’t think I have ever been as depressed as I was through the early part of the year. Yet in the midst of it all, one thing had become crystal clear: I want a child. I wanted to share my life with Neil and create another life together. 

I should say that I would have been ok figuring that out without all the drama involved, but then again, that's how the learning was presented to me, and I am so immensely and intensely grateful for it. About as grateful as I am for the gift I received on my 40th birthday this August - another positive pregnancy test. Now 4 months into my pregnancy, there is no end to the things I am and will be grateful for over the upcoming months and years ahead!

Happy Halloween!
 
 

Sunday, November 3, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: richard rohr

If we are so blessed, once in a lifetime, a writer comes along that opens up a whole new world for us.  Or maybe, as in my case, gives the world we knew a whole new meaning. We see it with new eyes. This is what spiritual teacher and Franciscan priest, Richard Rohr, did for me.

I first encountered Fr. Richard's teachings about 10 years ago, thanks to a set of CDs that were in the library at my silent retreat house. I listened to his words... and there was no going back.  I knew instantly this was a voice that spoke to my heart. (Listen to this short talk on Prayer as a state of communion - you'll see what I mean.)


R. Rohr, seated on the right

A few years ago, I had Hubby drive me to Boston so that I could attend a week-long series of evening classes with Fr. Richard at Boston College.  A year later, I had the pleasure of attending a weekend workshop with him here in the Ottawa Valley.  Then just last February, I attended a conference in Chicago where he spoke, along with Fr. Lawrence Freeman (World Community for Christian Meditation). His teachings remain relevant and challenging. Inspired and inspiring.

You can imagine the joy and gratitude I felt when I received an email from Fr. Richard, accepting my invitation to share his gratitude on this blog!  I am so honoured to share this post from my teacher and spiritual mentor. 


My Long Gratitude

Richard Rohr

Of the many daily, totally gratuitous things I am grateful for, the things I too often take for granted, I think my long standing gratitude is for the gift of the Christian proclamation so early in life—but precisely in a way that kept growing and unfolding throughout my life.

Yes, I was grateful as a little Catholic boy in Kansas to be a part of such a warm and even insular community, as it was in the 1940s and 50s.  It gave me ground, security, and a foundational happiness in being itself.  Then I was grateful to be exposed by the
Franciscans in Ohio and Michigan to a huge world of ideas, philosophy, art, poetry, culture, and theology that made me aware of how catholic Catholic should be, and this gave me a foundational happiness in my mind.  Finally, I am grateful that my role allowed me to teach all over the world from my home here in New Mexico, to meet so many beautiful human beings, discover new depths of communion through many trials and stages, and this gave me a foundational happiness in my very heart and soul.

Now I am just grateful that being an ordinary man can be more than enough, and it allows me to name, enjoy, and tell others about what I have been given to see. The message of Christ is not finally about him at all (which he seems to be quite happy about, since that is the whole poiint!), but a liberating message about us, the movement of history, and in fact everything.  Now I have much and even everything to be grateful for, and even the inner and outer trials that got me here.

Saturday, October 26, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: patience salgado

I've never met today's guest blogger in person.  Not even close.  Yet she has had a big influence on *the gratitude project: dare to be grateful* - and on me personally!

Patience Salgado, a.k.a. KindnessGirl, believes kindness changes everything. As a kindness worker (among other wonderful vocations), she facilitates kindness movements in her hometown of Richmond, Virginia and - thanks to her blog - all over the world.  On her About Me page, she writes:

"After years of doing small acts of kindness here and there, I finally documented my first guerrilla goodness mission in August of 2007, things just kind of blew the heck up from there. Thousands of folks have been part of spreading kindness all over the world with KindnessGirl over the years. (this still makes me shake my head in surprise, bliss and joy every time I think about it) …you can also find me blogging for Huffington Post and writing for GRID, and previously at PBSParents.org and RVANews ."

Patience's kindness projects are simple and profound.  Things like:
More recently, she engaged her city in an amazing interactive art initiative: The Light of Human Kindness.  1000 lights. 1000 stories. 1000 acts of kindness.

I know. I'm gushing now.  But you need to know that KindnessGirl was one of my key inspirations when I first toyed with the idea of starting a blog on Gratitude.  She inspired me to step out of my comfort zone and to take the idea beyond words on a screen - from blog... to social engagement experiment.  Without even knowing it, she helped me start *the gratitude project: dare to be grateful*.

So. Can you imagine how thrilled I was when she agreed to contribute to the blog?!  I sent her a few questions to choose from, and she chose to respond to one of them in the audio file below.  Not only her thoughts, but spoken in her beautiful voice. G.R.A.T.E.F.U.L. to the max!! 

CLICK HERE to listen to what Patience has to say about gratitude and failure... 

AND, a special shout-out to Hubby who helped me embed an audio file to this blog post.  Couldn't have shared this without his help!

gratefully yours,
jag

Sunday, October 20, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: ray zahab...

Ray Zahab is one of these guys that you meet, and you hear his story and you think to yourself: "But... he seems so ordinary, like me - and yet, what he is doing is extraordinary!"  And he gives you permission to believe that YOU TOO can do the extraordinary. 

Following his pivotal experience of running 7500km across the Sahara Desert in 2006 (an achievement featured in the documentary: Running the Sahara), Ray founded impossible2Possible (i2P)in order to Inspire, Educate and Empower youth to make positive change in the world. 
 
I am thrilled that Ray took the time from his extremely busy schedule to respond to my invitation to participate in *the gratitude project: dare to be grateful*.  (In fact, he sent his responses from Rome, Italy, where he was delivering yet another inspirational talk at a TED Conference.)  Thanks so much Ray!
  
What PERSONAL QUALITY are you most grateful for, and why?
 
I am grateful for the willingness to continue learning - for the desire to learn from others and their experiences!

What FAILURE are you most grateful for, and why?
 
I am most grateful to have DNF'ed at a major ultramarathon many years ago. It taught me not to underestimate a challenge - not to think for one minute that I have everything figured out! 

What LIFE EXPERIENCE are you most grateful for, and why?
 
I am most grateful for two things. 1. meeting my wife. 2. Running 7500km across the Sahara and learning that we totally underestimate what we as humans are capable of. We all have the capacity to do amazing things in our lives... and never stop learning in the process.

Sunday, October 13, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: anonymous...

Today, in honour of our Canadian Thanksgiving celebrations, I share with you a selection of the expressions of gratitude I have been receiving by postcard!

from St. Louis, MO
I started the postcard project in June, as I headed out on my West Coast Adventure.  Since then, blank, stamped postcards have been dropped off in cities all across the country, here in my own city, as well as in cities visited by friends.  They have been left for people to find from British Columbia to Newfoundland, in several states throughout the USA, in Ireland, Germany and England.  This was truly an exercise in letting go, since there is no way of knowing what happens to the postcard after it is "dropped".  Needless to say, whenever a card actually makes its way back to me, I am thrilled!!

So here, as we mark our blessings on a national scale, I am happy to celebrate the greatly full lives of the anonymous individuals who took the time to share.

Today, I dare to be grateful for...
  • ...my wonderful brother Brad, who is the best person I know - and today is his birthday!! I'm very grateful for the beautiful person he is and for all the joy he brings to the world!  (Winnipeg, MB)
  • ...my health, my wonderful husband & my family, especially that my father is still alive. Also, the 2 very close friends that I have. (Edmonton, AB)
  • ...early retirement, friends I love & can visit, health, feeling better every day after the BC Bike race.  (Vancouver, BC)
  • ...our health, our 39 years of marriage, the good team we are, the great kids we have, this fantastic travel we are able to make, God's wonderfull nature and all that is living in it. (from Holland - We found this card in Jasper outside at the info centre.)
from Vancouver, BC
Today, I dare to be grateful for...
  • ...Last night, we had friends over for dinner and Conny asked me if I woke up each morning happy. When I said yes, she asked me why. I didn't know where to begin. So I started, "Because of life. Because of my husband. Because I'm here on Salt Spring..." and I let it trail off because I knew the list was endless and would consume the rest of the evening. I lead a very fortunate life and am grateful for everything in it. (Salt Spring Island, BC)
  • ...having my 85 & 83 year old parents live with me. Such a blessing to have them in my life! (Winnipeg, MB)
  • ...Life! I've been alive. I've been ill. I've been hurt. I've been dead. Many times over - I prefer Life!  Joie de vivre!  (Portland, OR)
  • ...texts from my niece, the ability to buy a large cup of coffee before work, emails from friends, e-courses that are so lovely and affordable, a coolness in the morning air, Pandora and classical music, you and this project!! (Portland, OR)
  • ...the wonderful gift of Gratitude! (Winnipeg, MB)
  • ...a fiancé gracious enough to hold on to me after I postponed our wedding.  He's been patient & understanding and willing to talk through issues and fears. I thank God for him every day.  Philippians 1:3-4 NIV. You are my warrior, love.  xox (Winnipeg, MB)

from Columbus, OH
 Today, I dare to be grateful for...
  • ...being healthy and able to take part of different challenges in life (Spartan races, Tough Mudder, Drop Zone challenge).
  • ...another wonderful day in Vancouver before we have to finish our Canada trip and fly back to Germany... (from Germany)
  • ...My friend Alli got her melanoma diagnosis 3 years ago today. Today, I am grateful she is healthy and happy, bravely keeping the black beast at bay. (Madison, WI)
  • ...that you were so nice & left me a tip even though I was a moody <insert curse word>.  I'm grateful for mates. (Dingle, Ireland)
  • ...feeling cherished by my family and close friends. (Ireland)


Today, I dare to be grateful for...
  • ...having three beautiful, healthy children and the sweetest little granddaughter ever. (Atlanta, GA)
  • ...I am so grateful for God's unending Love for me. He's embraced me throughout my life and I feel his presence & protection surrounding me.  Without Him, I would be nothing. Everyday is a learning lesson; I'm striving to be more like Him & less like me. Thank you for the opportunity! (USA)
  • ...my life, dreams, healthy, family, friends, job, your tip, your love for someone else, god, my faith. Thank you! (Dublin, Ireland)
  • ...my husband's company re-organized and we thought he would be out of a job - instead... he got a promotion!!  (Madison, WI)

from Madison, WI
Keep 'em coming!!

gratefully yours,
jag


Sunday, October 6, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: ted buglas

I've known Ted Buglas for over 20 years.  I originally met him through work, and still have the pleasure of crossing paths with him in our shared workplace.  But he is much more than a colleague to me: he has become a dear friend.  In fact, I have been known to publicly state that Ted is one of my favourite people on the planet.  :-) 

Ted has an incredible sense of humour, too often at his own expense, and his love for art and design are expressed in everything he does.  But it is his mastery of words that puts him in another stratosphere, in my opinion.  I could easily ask him about a film I care nothing about, simply to hear him describe it. Listening to him describe the storyline, using language that sometimes makes me want to reach for a dictionary, is like listening to a newly composed piece of music.  He is the artist and language is his art.

Knowing this, I should not have been surprised when a simple request to share what he was grateful for lead to this amazing piece called "Graceland".  Thank you, Ted.  I am so grateful my world has you in it!


Graceland
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For every star that went before, the million years,
The million beasts that marched a while in life’s parade,
Our season in the trees, and our descent
To build the pyramids and shopping malls.
 
For Soviets, for fear of the apocalypse, 
For Castro, Camelot, the Viet Cong, 
Our old blue van, the fallout shelter where
Two flower children tripped a nuclear bomb.
 
For symbiotic bliss and liquid breath,
A gentle ebbing amniotic sea,
Then primal calls to breach the walls of Jericho,
Hang Canaan's kings and claim that promised land.
 
For the long garden of youth, the morning brimming,
With wonder under every stone, up every tree,
Love won or lost, the back or cheek we turned,
The knowledge earned, the innocence it cost.
 
For all the lonely shade grown Narcissists   
Toiling Facebook's digital plantation,
For tour de France heroes, for fund-hedging gurus,
And global patricians and suburban Neros.
 
For all the humble pleasures that abide,
Beyond the days that must be scaled like walls,
Our gnarled fingers reaching to entwine,
While fair from fair declines yet beauty lingers.
 
Yes, even for this sad diminuendo,
For the ticking clock and its sound of subtraction,
The shame of our incontinent geography,
This filament, this wisp, mortality.
 
For every anxious breath and each reprieve,
For what we gave, and what we shall receive.
 
 

Sunday, September 29, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: ali edwards


I had the pleasure of meeting Ali Edwards at the Your Story Retreat that I attended in Oregon back in June.  She was one of the four retreat leaders and, to be honest, she was the one I knew the least about.  I really had no expectations of what I would get out of her portion of the retreat.  I was not into memory keeping and had never even heard of "A Week in the Life". But clearly, many of the other retreat participants had. As an author of numerous books and a popular blog, as well as a digital scrapbook products designer, Ali is well-known to many in the scrapbooking world.

The wonderful thing about having no expectations of someone is that a space  is created - a wide open space - to simply meet the other where they are at.  And the Ali I met that week was funny, quiet at times, sharp, reflective and incredibly willing to be raw and honest. I was inspired by her storytelling... and our group discussion at her session created a profound shift in me that I am still processing.  I am so grateful to have met Ali, and to have her share her thoughts on gratitude with *the gratitude project: dare to be grateful*!  She has given me much to think about...


What are you grateful for?

Ah, gratitude. My old friend.

I’m obviously grateful for the beautiful basics of my life like my kids, my family, my friends and my home. I’m also really grateful for my work and for the many opportunities I’ve had to travel over the years both personally and professionally.  

But at the heart of it I’m actually really grateful for the mess.

Even when I’m knee deep in the messes of life I’m thankful for the opportunity to simply be alive - to learn and grow and make-it-through and be a witness to humanity and all the broken beauty it presents. I’ve been in that place where I was doubled over with sadness and fear and it’s tough to keep an eye on gratitude in those moments, but it’s possible. It takes practice and a commitment to coming back to it again and again even when I fail miserably.

Expressing gratitude is my lifeline. The process of identifying the things that I’m thankful for in the middle of the mess gives me so much perspective. It’s a tool I learned from my Mom. She’s awesome at practicing gratitude in the middle of it all. She writes handwritten letters, she calls to say thank you, she’s conscious of her blessings, she’s amazing at forgiveness and she’s so very real about it all and the struggles she encounters on her own journey.

One of the significant ways I practice gratitude in the middle of the mess is through memory keeping. I use photos and words to document my life and express gratitude as I live my story from one day to the next.  It’s through this process of documentation that I truly see (make visible to myself) all the things I have to be thankful for every day of my life.

Here’s to second chances, forgiveness, compassion, embracing imperfections and gratitude in the mess.
 

Sunday, September 15, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: kathrine v. switzer

K. V. Switzer (l.) and yours truly (r.)!
I am BEYOND excited to present today's grateful guest blogger - the amazing Kathrine V. Switzer. I first met Kathrine in 2010 at The Great Raisin River Footrace in Williamstown, Ontario.  She and her husband Roger Robinson were guests of honour at this delightfully small and intimate race.  This past August, they returned and my friends & I had the opportunity to spend even more quality time with them both.  At dinner, I gathered my courage, took a deep breath and told Kathrine about *the gratitude project: dare to be grateful*.  I suspected the message of gratitude might resonate with her and hoped she would be willing to consider my invitation to participate in this Sunday series. My heart did a little happy dance at the sound of her enthusiastic "yes"!

That history-making day in Boston in 1967 changed Kathrine Switzer's life... and it lead to changes in the lives of millions of women around the world.  (It still boggles the mind that, in my lifetime, women were not allowed to run marathons!) Today, her impact reaches well beyond the world of running.  And yet, with all that greatness and life experience to choose from, her sharing on gratitude tells of her humility. Of her values. Of who she is when the spotlight turns away. 


And that is what inspires me the most.

Thank you, Kathrine.  Here's to the next chapter: for you, the Story of 261-Fearless... and for me, my first marathon in 2014.

Yes, the marathon awaits.
 
 
 
 
 
What am I most grateful for?

I think most people would be surprised and how I, a history-making marathon runner, would answer this question.  For sure, I am grateful for excellent health, good running, a great family, wonderful friends and a dynamic life, even if it is, at times, over-stressful.  And I am extremely grateful that I was able to experience an unsettling and negative thing early in my life—when the race director of the Boston Marathon physically attacked me mid-stride in the 1967 competition and tried to throw me out of the race because I was a girl (the Boston Marathon was a men’s only event then)—and instead turn it into a positive force that has changed women’s lives everywhere.

However, all of those things would not feel so wonderful and so complete without the love I have for, and receive back from, my husband Roger.  I know, because I was married twice before. I had given up on thinking an egalitarian kind of love was possible.  I wasn’t sure when Roger and I agreed to marry, either, but I decided to give myself over to the total risk of love, to completely abandon myself to it.  As it turns out, that is what it takes.  It was hugely scary, like throwing yourself off a cliff.  And it worked. In our marriage, we strive for a lack of dominance. We try very hard to make things equal; not only in terms of money or household tasks, but in supporting and taking each other’s work and emotions seriously. I think in 25 years of marriage, we’ve had maybe two arguments! Every day the love grows.  I definitely am most grateful for this amazing love; it is the hub around which my life revolves.

Kathrine Switzer

Sunday, September 8, 2013

celebrating lives greatly full :: david blaikie

I first met David Blaikie through my husband.  I have since grown to enjoy his company and that of his wife, Susan.  David's career was in journalism and communications, including 18 years as a Parliamentary Press Gallery reporter with The Canadian Press, The Toronto Star and Reuters. But I love that, until recently, even after knowing David for several years, I had no idea just how talented a writer and a poet he really was. It's as if his relationship with words, and his need to let them flow out of him, are simply part of his very being.  Like the colour of his eyes: very present, but not demanding of attention.

I know David to be a humble man and he seemed genuinely surprised when I asked him if he would consider participating as a guest blogger in *the gratitude project: dare to be grateful*.  I am so glad that he agreed and hope you will enjoy his writing as much as I do.  You can revel in his words here.  And in his images, here.


When Jo-Anne asked me to contribute to her gratitude project, I thought of my father, David Morrison Blaikie, who was born July 28, 1909, and lived all his life in the small Nova Scotia village of Upper Stewiacke, a good man who still inspires me thirty-seven years after his death.          

He was named after his father, although everyone called him Morris, and I was named in turn after him. Scarcely a day goes by that I do not think of him and feel gratitude for his wise and patient counsel.

On the last day I saw him, my mother took a photo of the two of us on standing at the corner of our house, just before I got into the car to head back to Ottawa. I can still see the two of them waving as I drove away. I keep that photo in a meditation corner and see it every morning as I look out through the branches of a towering silver maple toward the Rideau, a place he would have loved as much as I do.

My father went to school in that village, graduated from Grade 11 in 1924 (a relative rarity at
the time) and went to work immediately in the family sawmill, where he spent his life and in later years became the sole owner and operator. I remember him as he was in this photo, his hand on the lever, the big saw shrieking through endless logs, his hat forever flecked with sawdust. He worked there 44 years and never got over its closing in 1968.

He married my mother, Eva Gray, at 33 and raised four children in a house where twice that many often crowded round the dinner table, including mill hands and anyone else who happened to be there.

He put two spoons of sugar in every cup of tea and went driving every Sunday, never forgetting the way sugar and gas were rationed in the war. He played the organ for the choir at church, and had a violin. Our house rang with hymn sings that I hated as child, yet would give anything to hear again. He also kept a weird blue apron in a box and took it with him to monthly meetings at the Masonic Hall.

A Liberal, he voted Tory only once, when Bob Stanfield entered national politics in 1967, and no Liberal ran against him, and even then he did it grudgingly, mainly to portray himself in political arguments as “a man who changes his vote.”

He played the stock market, rooted for Montreal, chafed at unions, wanted Sonny Liston to beat Cassius Clay, and favoured Bob Winters over Pierre Trudeau in that memorable leadership campaign of 1968.

He hoped I too would go to work in the mill but wished me well in journalism and held his tongue when I cheered for the Leafs, voted NDP and helped organize The Canadian Press. He never drank and never smoked and was not overweight yet died of heart failure March 3, 1976, on a winter holiday with my mother in Bermuda.

My oldest sister still lives in the house he built at the corner of the Otterbrook Road. Every time I’m home I visit his grave.

This poem appears in a chapbook, Farewell to Coney Island, published last year by Tree Press of Ottawa.

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Pilgrim

 
I see my father walking in dusty boots from the

mill through piles of golden lumber row on row

in the butter light of evening below the church.

 

The air is cool and tinged with words that

flow as fish in summer currents and seep to the

dark embrace of the earth beneath his feet.

 

Love is patient love is kind, amazing grace, unto

the hills around do I look up. I breathe the scent of

strawberries in a field and salt on red rut roads

 

hear hymns that flit on swallow wings to waiting

nests against the weathered barn.

This is where I learned that truth is fluid and

 

sings along the hydro wires from pole to silent pole

and winters with the geese and lovely butterflies

and never wears a ring or agrees to glint on

 

anything but bottles cast by pilgrims into ditches

on their way to Santiago. My father was a pilgrim

in this village where he wandered through his days

 

and he rarely knew a morning that was old

or came to evening with an empty bowl.
 
 
- David Blaikie